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If you have fertility problems, you may be struggling with many difficult feelings. Complex and often painful emotions are common for people with fertility problems, those who can't have children and those having fertility treatment.

"People can feel fear, anger and guilt," says Clare Brown, chief executive of Infertility Network UK, an infertility support network. "They can feel as though they've failed. People talk about feeling less of a woman, or less of a man. Depression and anxiety are common. Fertility treatment can be an intensely stressful experience. Most of us never imagine experiencing problems with having a child. When it happens, it’s a terrible shock."

For those whose fertility problems prevent them from having children, there can be a sense of loss or grief. Brown says: "It’s almost a kind of bereavement for the child that this person expected to have. We can build our future around a plan to have children, and suddenly it's taken away.”

Not all people who experience fertility problems feel this way. The 1.5 million people affected by fertility problems have all kinds of responses, says Brown. But for those who find themselves tackling difficult emotions, there is help.

Healthtalk.org has videos of women talking about their experiences ofinfertility and assisted conception.

Find support

People with fertility problems may find it useful to talk to family and friends about the way they feel. For some, however, this isn’t an option. They may not want to share their problem with people who are close to them.

"We hear quite often that family and friends find it hard to empathies with fertility problems," says Brown. "They can often say unhelpful things, such as, 'Just relax and you’ll get pregnant'. Well, sometimes that just isn’t true."

Many people find that talking to other people in a similar situation is the most beneficial form of support, says Brown.

"People can log on to our website and talk in the forums anonymously," she says. "We also run face-to-face support groups. They can both do an enormous amount to remove the feeling of isolation." There's also a telephone helpline staffed by volunteers to provide information, support and understanding.

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